China is what Happens When You’re Making Other Plans

If you’ve been following my blog for awhile, you may have noticed that China was not mentioned anywhere in my original itinerary. I was supposed to be headed to New Zealand for the month of October (Sorry Matt). I’d done the research, made connections, and was getting psyched to go sky diving to celebrate my 26th birthday. I came thisclose to buying a plane ticket. Only about a month before departure did I make the decision to trade all of that for China- a country I’d barely ever even considered visiting.

Chinese Empire

So what happened?

The most obvious, unexpected thing in the world: I met a boy.

Yes me, Miss “Being single is SOOO great, I’m not going to wait around for anyone, I’m going off to see the WORLD.” I still believe what I said completely. I was all set to ride off into the sunset on my own, but life had other plans for me. In fact, if I had to guess, I would say it was that independent will and attitude that attracted this guy in the first place. Funny how that works.

I had, I still have, big plans, but I am not so set in my ways to recognize a golden oppurtunity when it is smacking me upside the head. A guy who understands, and shares, my passion for travel and philosophy of life. Someone in the throes of his own world exploration. Someone who thinks I’m capable, not irresponsible, and sees my independence as an attractive quality. And the bonus: he’s smoking hot. Someone like that does not come along every day.

And when, after a perfect summer, someone that awesome invites you to come visit him while he’s teaching English in Xi’an China, you find a way to make that happen!

As I said above, it has never really crossed my mind to go to China. It seemed closed, remote, the kind of place you would be lost without a tour guide. But aside from a frustrating afternoon at the visa office so far things have been startlingly easy.

Auf nach China
photo credit: Max Braun

It’s going to be really great actually: I’ll be ferrying from Osaka into Shanghai, catching the tail end of the World Expo, before heading up to Xi’an for a couple of weeks and then onto Beijing. Instead of bungee jumping for my birthday I’ll be stuffing myself with Chinese food and hopefully getting to visit some pandas (I LOVE pandas). New Zealand isn’t going anywhere, but China is a dynamic, rapidly changing country, and I’m excited to peak inside.

This unexpected, but totally awesome turn of events has been a real game changer for me. I thought I knew where I was going, what my life for the next year was going to be about, and how it would look. I forgot that life has a funny way of laughing in the face of know-it-alls.

So my trip has already changed before it ever began. I was looking at the world from one perspective, and now I see that I need to be more flexible, and open ended in my planning. I can read all the guides I want, try to plan ahead, but in the end I ust don’t know what’s going to happen or where I’ll end up. At this point I know where I will be up until New Years, but after that we will just have to see.

And once again travel takes me places I never thought I’d be.

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83 thoughts on “China is what Happens When You’re Making Other Plans”

  1. Marina K. Villatoro

    Sounds very similar to me. I had a plan to see the world, met a guy in Guatemala and have yet to leave Latin America – 10 years later.

    In my opinion, this is the only way to meet someone, when you least expect it! And it’s the best way by far.

    There’s a saying:
    If you want to make God laugh – tell him or her your plans!

    1. I agree, I also think it’s easier to meet someone when you are already pretty happy by yourself- then the guys seem to flock!

  2. I went to Asia two years ago for a big solo trip around the world, and met the guy who is still my boyfriend today my second night there! Oh and I changed my plane ticket home so we could go to Malaysia together, at which point my closest friends asked me in the nicest possible way if I had seen Brokedown Palace. Ha! All’s well that ends well!

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