How to Have a (Non-Miserable) Holiday Away From Home

Spending the holidays away from home can be one of the most difficult aspects of long-term travel. Whether or not you are religious, the holidays are a time for tradition and family togetherness. When you are far away from the familiar it can be very easy to start feeling lonely and sorry for yourself.

I’ve spent two Christmases (and three thanksgivings!) away from home. The first was a miserable sleepless Christmas Eve spent in the departures hallway of Heathrow. Not the gate area, I sat in an uncomfortable plastic chair near the check-in desk and watched a homeless man get comfy behind my luggage. This fun evening was followed by a cramped 6-hour flight on Christmas morning. Not my best year.

The second Christmas I spent in London was actually not that bad at all. Here are four things I did which made the holiday much more bearable.

Find a Community

At that point I working in London and sharing a flat with three crazy Australian boys, who obviously weren’t going to make it home for Christmas either.  We also had two Australian girls staying with us and I invited another American girl I knew to come spend the holiday. With 7 of us all in the same boat, it wasn’t such a lonely experience at all.

Whether you are living abroad or actively traveling, there are sure to be other people in the same situation who you can reach out to. Friends, the local ex-pat community, other traveler’s in the hostel- nobody wants to be alone at Christmas. They may not be your closest family and friends, but you’ll be shocked to see how quickly bonds can form.

n215100178_30426971_199Observe Traditions

It was really important to me to have a Christmas tree, even if I didn’t have any presents to put under it. On my way home from work I stopped by Paperchase and picked out the tackiest, most colorful tabletop aluminum tree I could find. When I set it up the boys stared perplexidly at it before laughing and topping it with a men’s leopard print g-string (our houses mascot… don’t ask). It was goofy as hell but it never failed to cheer me up.

I think that incorporating some of your annual traditions can give you a feeling of comfort and continuity in a new place. It may take some creative improvisation but try to honor at least one important tradition. It could be baking Christmas cookies, attending a religious service or maybe just spending some time volunteering with the less fortunate. Pick something that will evoke the feelings of home without making yourself terribly homesick.

Pick up some New Traditions

When I’m at home I’ll usually spend Christmas Eve watching holiday movies or, if we are feeling particularly energetic that year, at midnight mass. This is not how my new Australian family rolled. Apparently in Brisbane, it is traditional to go out on Christmas Eve and party like the world is ending. Festooned in Santa hats and bows we headed down the Shepherd’s Bush Walkabout and joined the racous antipodien party.

It was the first time I ever woke up on Christmas morning with a hangover. Santa would not approve.

Part of the whole point of travel is so absorb other cultures. Holiday time is a perfect opportunitn815140435_2028998_4385y to expand your horizons and see how other people celebrate.  If you find yourself somewhere that isn’t even celebrating at that moment, well try and find something else cultural to do that day (or at least treat yourself to a big meal).

When All Else Fails, Hit the Sauce

While the more competent members of our “family” cooked up a Christmas Feast, I helped my roommate Ryan mix up the all important Christmas Punch. I honestly can’t remember any of the ingredients now except vodka. A LOT of vodka. After a couple mugs of the stuff I was too full of “Christmas cheer” to be homesick. I spent most of the afternoon helpless on the sofa watching Gone with the Wind (inexplicably on the BBC).

This last point may not be the healthiest advice but it’s the holidays and anything cheering is fair game. You certainly want to create a merry buzz as opposed to a drunk brooding stupor. Whatever gets you through I say.

They say that there’s no place like home for the holidays and that is absolutely true. When you are stuck many miles away though, you have a unique opportunity to embrace the season in a new and personal way.

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Coral
Coral

Our first Christmas away from home this year in Melbourne and we were invited to join a family Christmas dinner with some lovely people we met on a campsite in New Zealand. 15 for dinner, 3 POM’s, 1 American. Loads of Auzzies, food and drink. Eased the pain of being away from home and my kids! You never knew who you may meet on the road!

Travelfusion
Travelfusion

Great post – I made it back home this Christmas although it wasn’t certain…but this is good advice for next year when I may not make it back.

Cheers!

Kathryn @Travelfusion

Michaela Potter
Michaela Potter

I love it when you can find your much-loved traditions in unexpected places. While on my career break travels with my boyfriend in 2007, we found ourselves celebrating Thanksgiving on a roof top apartment in the heart of Bangkok hosted by some former Peace Corps volunteers. While we Americans were outnumbered, it was still a great way to celebrate the holiday with new friends. And they even managed to find a turkey, stuffing, corn, and even pumpkin pie! Another option is to check in with your local embassy to see what events they may have going on for expats. My… Read more »

Candice
Candice

I’ve never spent a holiday away from home, I’m not sure how I’d feel about it. But I LOVE the advice, especially “observing other traditions.” So true.
.-= Candice´s last blog ..Oh MatadorU, How I Adore You! =-.

brian | No Debt World Travel
brian | No Debt World Travel

Last year I spent Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Year’s AND my birthday away from home and enjoyed it by being around people and getting into the culture of the location. For instance, I spent Christmas in an Ethiopian church. Wonderful!
.-= brian | No Debt World Travel´s last blog ..Best Travel News and Deals – December 8, 2009 – Dubai, Chinese Rapping Pig, 10 Best Airports, Crime in Paradise, The Reality of Travel Writing =-.

Matt
Matt

Nice post, I totally agree. Having a group of friends in a similar situation to you makes the experience much, much easier.

I spent Christmas 2007 in Galway. After a beautiful Christmas dinner (and heaps of Guinness) with some Irish, American, and Australian travelers, we made our way to a swimming platform and jumped in freezing Galway bay. Nevermind the cold and snow, it was an unforgettable experience. A Christmas to remember.

Our Christmas tree? A decorated, orange street cone.

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