Teaching Abroad: What If I Don’t Like Kids?

I’m a huge advocate of teaching English abroad as a way to make traveling more affordable. You get a steady pay check, while at the same time having the opportunity to travel around a new country and the flexibility to save some of your earnings for even more travel once your contract is finished. Beyond the money, living in a different country is like traveling on a whole new level: You get to immerse yourself in the food, language and culture in a much deeper way than you could if you were just passing through on a trip.

When I’m preaching these virtues of teaching English abroad, many people are quick to tell me it won’t work for them because they don’t like kids. The thing is, I was never the “good with kids” girl either – the type of person who parented younger siblings or babysat their neighborhood’s children every weekend. That’s probably why, before I started teaching English, there were a lot of things I didn’t know about kids.

Unconditional Love

I’m not sure how I thought the students would react to me when I arrived at school for the first time, but I definitely didn’t expect instant adoration. Having taught in both Thailand and Japan, I can confidently say that kids under 10 years old (and sometimes older) will be completely enamored with you. I didn’t have to do anything at all to impress them. I just showed up, and they were fascinated with me. Students fought about who would have the privilege of sitting next to me at lunch; and kindergarten children presented me with carefully-drawn portraits decorated with all the English words they knew. You may think you don’t like kids, but I defy you to reiterate that as you’re face-to-face with a wide-eyed 5-year-old who seems to want nothing in the world but your attention. I don’t want to sugar-coat it and imply that there are never challenges when it comes to teaching kids, but I can say that I could count on shrieks of joy as I arrived at school, and it’s hard not to enjoy your job when everyday starts with hugs.

Your” Kids Are Different

I remember what was like to look at a kid knocking items off shelves in a grocery store, or a mom struggling to calm her kids down on the subway, and thinking “Ugh – I don’t like kids”. But as any parent will probably confirm, there’s a big difference between kids and your kids. Kids are generic and often annoying, but yourkids are endearing and forgivable. On your first day of teaching, sure, you’re just looking at a mass of little faces that you can’t tell apart, but before you know it, you start to recognize each and every one of them. Kids are not a homogenous group that all behave the same way – they’re tiny, developing people. Regardless of how young they are, they have quirks, personalities and senses of humor, and everything changes once you start to recognize that. I’ve never been impressed by kids’ cute antics before, but I quickly found myself tacking drawings to the fridge, and blabbering about the hilarious thing that Taiki or Kaem did that day. Once you see each kid for the unique individual that they are, it’s so much easier to like them.

The Language Factor

At family gatherings, my sister always gravitated towards entertaining our younger relatives, while I stood there wringing my neck awkwardly and bursting out with child-impressing gems like, “So, you’ve got a truck there, huh?” Interacting with kids never felt natural to me at all. So when I came home for Christmas after teaching for two years, I kind of assumed I’d be able to capitalize on everything I’d learned about communicating with kids.

The surprising part was that, as much as I felt I’d grown as a teacher, I still completely failed at winning over my little cousins. It made me realize that there’s this huge difference between what it’s like to interact with kids in your home country, and what it’s like to interact with them when you don’t speak the same language. It’s a miniature version of what you experience when you’re communicating with anyone when there’s a language barrier: There’s so much beauty in those rare moments of clarity, when you’re able to understand each other. There’s something so poignant about a 6 year-year-old taking my hand and teaching me a word in her language, or even better, proudly repeating back English vocabulary that I know I taught her. My students watched the way I struggled to express myself to them in Thai or Japanese, and it made them want to try too – made them want to flip open dictionaries and try to share their thoughts and feelings in English, so that I could understand them.

You think you don’t like kids? I say you don’t know kids.

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28 thoughts on “Teaching Abroad: What If I Don’t Like Kids?”

  1. Well if you don’t like kids (but who doesnt?) there is much more jobs in the world, and proper professional jobs that will pay you much better then an English Teacher. It’s myth must do English teaching. Work in business, or other professional jobs, and you will earn much more then back home and get accomodation and all provided. And there is anything you could do if you have experience, and professional skill set that you can bring with you. I am a Sports Physiotherapist, travelled the world for years, 5 now, each year around 40 countries with my job. Look at the other options people.

  2. YES to ALL of this. I was really nervous when I first started teaching. My youngest family member is only a few years younger than me, so I never really interacted with young kids growing up – apart from when I was a young kid myself. Even though I’m not the biggest fan of kids, teaching MY students is different. I get to know their personalities, their quirks, their likes and dislikes, what makes them tick – and how to punish them, if needs be. It’s different every day, and I relish teaching my favourite classes.

  3. I can so relate to the awkward hang wringing thing and wrote a very similar post myself last year. Although I can’t say that I’m a natural with kids to this day, I had so many heart warming moments last year teaching English in Madrid that my perspective has changed so much about teaching.

    Thanks for sharing!

  4. This puts me at so much ease! I’m terrified of children, they just seem to hate me! Every time a cousin or nephew gets put into my arms it screams and cries – I think i give of a bad-child-vibe. But I’ve just signed up to do my TEFL and am moving over to SE Asia to teach for a while at the end of this year – knowing I’m not alone in the whole Kid Lover thing is such a relief!

  5. What a encouraging post. Getting to know kids and what makes them tick is so key. So amazing to hear them say words you teach them or have them rush to their dictionary. My cousin taught in South Korea and had such a wonderful experience, she returns every 2-3 years. It was hard letting go.

  6. Brilliant post! I’m one of those people who struggles to communicate with kids. In my early 20s I looked at teaching overseas, but shied away as I was worried about the language barrier and that the kids wouldn’t like me or pay attention – no confidence basically! Your post is really enlightening.

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