The Introverts Guide to Travel

I’m really excited to write this one! It’s been brewing for a long time, as over the past couple of years I’ve really come to understand what it means to be an introverted traveler.

A little known fact about me is that I am actually really introverted. People don’t believe me when I tell them this: I’m so friendly and open- sometimes even ballsy (particularly when I’ve had a few drinks in me…). It’s true though: I can fake it for awhile, but like all introverts I find personal interactions to be really draining, and I need time by myself to recharge my social battery. It’s not that I’m shy, I just really, really like being alone.

This affects how I travel of course, but it never holds me back. So if I, a true introvert at heart, who likes nothing better than curling up with a book and a beer all by lonesome, can travel the world- so can you. Here’s my advice:

Understand Your Needs

Chilling on my own

It took me a long time to figure out what it actually mean to be an introvert. For ages I would go to parties and wonder why, after a few hours, I felt cranky and tired. I would feel guilty and anti-social and just miserable. I love my friends, so why did I want to go home so badly?

Fortunately my wise father is a licensed Myers-Briggs tester (I’m an INFP), and he taught me a lot about being an introvert. It doesn’t mean that you’re shy, or anti-social. It just means that you react differently to external stimuli than extraverts. Introverts get their energy from being alone, not from other people.

For me, being an introvert means that I can go out to a loud party one night and have a good time, but the next day I probably am not going to want to see anyone. It means that I need time outs at social gatherings to catch my breath and rally. It means that huge crowds and cramped spaces are always going to make me nervous, although I try to find ways of coping. It means I’m happiest in my own head.

Reading up on introversion can help you better understand your needs, which can lead to a lot less frustration and confusion, particularly when you are traveling with a partner, which leads me to my next comment…

Choose your Companion Carefully

Back when I was a single lady I traveled solo or with my buddy Liz. She is an introvert too, which worked perfectly. We had a lot of fun together but we were also great at working in solo time. She’d read a book while I went for a walk, or we’d sit in companionable silence, each watching our own movie on our own laptop. That may sound weird, but it wasn’t. We are just good at being alone together.

Then I started traveling with Mike, who is the definition of an extravert. He loves people, loud parties, chatting with strangers, the works. People energize him, and if he goes too long without socialization he gets antsy. While I’m usually the first to head home from the party, he’d rather be the last to leave.

So that’s… different. It’s frustrating sometimes, for both of us. I’m quiet, I can go for hours without talking and feel perfectly at ease, where he wants to share all of his experiences. I’m happy curled up in our hotel room, resting up for the next day, while it kills him to think that he’s missing out on some fun somewhere. There’s a lot of compromise as we both work to understand and meet the other’s needs.

Am I saying don’t travel with an extravert? No, I love mine and we have tons of fun together. He challenges me to get out there in ways I probably wouldn’t on my own. We meet different people and have interesting adventures. And I… well I probably keep him from getting too out of hand. Plus, he reads more now?

Whoever you travel with make, sure you can negotiate your needs and carve out enough personal space that you don’t lose your mind.

Don’t Be Afraid to Go Alone

It sounds counter-intuitive, but I think introverts are even more well-suited for solo travel than extraverts. We’ve got the inner resources to be alone and entertain ourselves for long periods.

When I travel alone I’ll sometimes go all day without making a connection. I revel in eating alone and wandering the streets of a new city with just my camera as a friend. I eat a lot of ice cream. I think a lot. Sometimes I go to bed early and don’t even feel guilty, just because I can. I do whatever it is I want to do and I don’t worry about other people. If I want a friend, I’ll make one, but I can just as easily slip away when I’m ready to hang out by myself again.

Fake it Til you Make it

Backpacker buddies in Montenegro

When I was 15, and struggling to make friends at my new high school, a wise childhood buddy told me this, and it changed my life. Whenever I’m feeling social anxiety I just pretend I’m not. I just fake it. As a result I’ve become an introvert whose pretty damn good at disguising myself as an extravert.

I can talk to strangers on the train, make new friends in a hostel and even network at events. I’m not so great at things that require confrontation: ie haggling, but I’m working on it. Being an introvert doesn’t have to mean being shy, or even quiet, and I try really hard to push myself.

Then again, sometimes my social anxiety gets the better of me and I get nervous about the silliest things- asking directions for example. Travel is probably good for me in this regard- it forces me out of my comfort zone and makes me do these silly little things for myself.

Are you an introverted or an extraverted traveler? How has it affected your adventures?

Next Time: Advice from other bloggers.

Steph

Stephanie Yoder is a girl who can't sit still! She is the co-founder and editor of Why Wait To See the World. Learn more about her here.

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79 thoughts on “The Introverts Guide to Travel”

        1. As an INTJ as well, I also appreciate this article. And I congratulate you for being able to network at events. I am terrible at this. I’d rather just slink off into a corner and be forgotten. Although chatting to people on trains, in line, and asking directions is no problem.

  1. INFP… but I’ve discovered that in recent years I also have some shyness mixed into my introversion (especially in situations where I might not know what is expected of me, or what to expect). Pretending that you’re not introverted (or shy) in order to push through and actually be able to enjoy those larger-group situations is great… and also it is VERY important to pay attention to yourself, and your own signals to keep from hitting that burnout and anxiety-moments.
    Great article!

      1. Believe a number of my siblings are INFP or INFJ as well, and Mom I believe… it means we’re awesome, of course πŸ™‚

  2. I come off as an Extrovert in most ways – I talk a lot to strangers and I enjoy it. But I split my time 50/50 because no matter HOW much I love meeting strangers – I’m not a partier and I love my solo time reading and going to bed early and travelling alone. So although I classify myself as an extrovert, I would say I land in the middle of that spectrum because of how much time I NEED to be alone and ENJOY being alone. GREAT article to read about and encourage everybody to get out and travel!

  3. Thank you so much for this post. Through the years, I’m coming to terms with the fact that I may be an introvert. Odd, since I played improv, worked in TV, was the glue of my social groups back home but as I travel more and more I find myself preferring to be home at night, alone or with Matt. Even while traveling, and I feel no guilt about it. Maybe accepting it comes with age? N

  4. Wonderful post and great insights! I’m an ISFP, while my boyfriend is an extravert, so the biggest challenge for me in traveling with him has been resisting the temptation to sit back while he makes all the connections. It’s so easy to fall into the habit of letting him always ask for directions or strike up a conversations with strangers, since it comes more naturally to him in many situations.

    1. Yes, yes, yes! This is my worst habit, and I actually had to sit down with my boyfriend and say “force me to talk to people and do everything for a week” because I was relying on him to do everything!

  5. This is also something I have come to terms with over the years. While I do love being with people, I NEED my alone time or I go crazy. Sometimes I even have to tell my husband to give me an hour alone when we are traveling and are together 24/7. Even though he is the one person I can be around all the time and I like it, having my “me” time is way too important! It totally does recharge me. Very enlightened post, very cool to read about other introvert travelers out there πŸ™‚

  6. I’m an INFP, but I usually score 50/50 on the I/E portion. My usual travel companion is a definite E, but she tends to fall asleep on any sort of public transport so I can usually count on alone time on trains and buses!

    Museum trips are also great times for Introverts, I find people usually wander of on their own to examine things at their own pace, meeting up every so often to comment on things. And I love museums! Being an early riser is also a plus because you can get a few precious moments of reading/lingering over coffee while the party animals are still asleep! πŸ™‚

  7. I love this! I’m a proud introvert, too. For me, quitting my stressful teaching job helped a lot. Now that I work alone (instead of spending 7 hours a day wrangling middle school kids) I have a lot more energy for social events. As for traveling, I prefer to spend a good chunk of time in one place (for now, that place is Kenya!) and take shorter trips from my base. I think I maximize my trips this way because I don’t get burnt out.

    1. I’m also an introvert who recently quit a teaching job and now feels much better! Although I wasn’t wrangling middle school kids (I don’t think I’d last a week in that job) I was giving private English as a Second Language classes, which essentially meant I had to be a master conversationalist in order to draw out the student’s speaking ability. Now I’m a translator, so I work from my laptop and when a social event comes up, I’ve definitely got the energy to invest in it!

  8. I am an introvert, an INFP and have learnt how to mask my introversion. Despite being an introvert, I love knowing about people.

    Two years ago, after summer school, I went on my first ever two-week solo trip in Germany on my own. Spent it couchsurfing, lots of walking, lone meals, people-watching, getting lost and finally aspiring to go on another solo trip on my own, which is happening in two weeks time! This time for three months and I’m excited. Despite being an introvert, I love small talks and I guess it is just thinking differently. One does not have to feel bad for not liking to party. There are other things going on and that I think is the best discovery.

    Another introvert friend joked that she and I oughta travel together and if we get tired, we should go on our own way but just meet up in time for our flights back and share our stories. I think it might be fun. πŸ˜€

  9. I know we talked about it a bit at TBEX, but you and I are a lot alike, Stephanie! I’m definitely more of an introvert, too, and definitely need my alone time to recharge and be able to relax.

    I agree, though, that introverts make fantastic solo travelers! I never thought I’d enjoy long-term solo travel. But, after this summer, I’m definitely reconsidering that stance!

  10. Great post miss. I’m not an extrovert, but not an introvert either. I guess I’m somewhere in between. I do like my own company a lot which would probably twist the stick towards introvert.
    But your correct in saying that you could travel for longer if your happy with your own presence. I think people lose their sense of adventure when companionship availability isn’t on a steady flow.

    Great blog and I’ll add it to my link collection.

  11. Great piece, Steph. I agree with so many of the things in this.

    I actually laughed out loud when you said that Mike reads more — because now extraverted Dave is reading more, too! (Though I have to give George R. R. Martin most of the credit for that.)

    Anyway, I knew that conference month would be draining, so I am in the midst of booking a beach condo in a small town in Costa Brava to have a few days completely to myself, in between TBU and the blog house. That’s something that I always do as a traveler now — plan for downtime.

  12. Great post! I’m an ISFJ and somehow the shyness, or need to be alone was also perceived as a negative thing – you’re a loner, anti-social, strange… since then I’ve realized that it really isn’t so weird and that not everyone has to be an extrovert and chatty all the time!

    I think travelling on your own does offer a great balance for introverts – you’re forced to get out and speak to people and make connections, but going around by yourself also offers that alone time Introverts need for themselves.

  13. Great advice here, Steph! I’m an introvert as well and it can be a challenge in travel but also allows you some great solo experiences that extroverts might be too antsy to appreciate πŸ™‚ I actually sat by Mike on the flight back to NY from Tbex and he let his extroversion shine and struck up a conversation! (Hi, Mike!) I think introverts and extroverts make great travel companions. My blogging partner is an extrovert and she is always on hand to make introductions and get the conversation started!

  14. It’s refreshing to hear something in general from someone who correctly knows what an introvert is. I’m just like you in that I need my unwind time alone (I just got back from a week of having more or less no me time and it was tough!), but I can still flip the switch and become the party animal. Or maybe I’m just ambiverted (is that a real thing?).

  15. Great post, I can totally relate! I, too, am one of those people that others think is a wild and crazy extrovert, but the truth is it takes a lot of practice and conscious effort to come across that way, and it can often be exhausting. Sometimes I thrive on social interaction, but sometimes I just need my alone time. For a long time I thought I was a loser for not always feeling social, but I think the most important thing is to be comfortable with yourself however you are and to find a balance in how you interact with others. πŸ™‚

  16. ISTP also! thank you for this great article! i was reading like about myself. travelling as introvert is challenging sometimes, but it forces me from my comfort zone, so as you wrote, sometimes it is the best for me. And I really like to travel alone, I don’t feel lonely, when I want a friends I make ones and it is perfect balance. It works perfectly for me!

  17. It’s like you read my mind while you were writing this post! I too am quite introverted (but good at faking it), as generally speaking I find social interactions and constantly being around other people really draining for me. I often have to mentally psych myself up for these things, even if I know they will be fun, because most times I’d rather be quiet and by myself reading a book. Thankfully I never get tired of my travel partner (my husband!) who understands my needs and we can be comfortably quiet together when necessary while I recharge.

    I haven’t traveled long-term before, so it will be an adjustment as I figure out how to balance my needs on the road. We’re also figuring out the appropriate balance between hostels, private rooms and CouchSurfing! I enjoy each in turn, but too many dorms or CouchSurfing experiences in quick succession can just be system overload for me (and too many private rooms too draining on the budget! πŸ™‚ ).

  18. I find this to be really true. I’m an INFJ, I love travelling, but people exhaust me. I like just sitting in silence and enjoying things, but I often feel pressure from my extroverted friends to keep doing things/talking/interacting. It’s this awkward elephant lurking i the room. I’m about to embark on my first “solo” trip (I say that in quotes because I’m joining up with a tour). I’m excited to see how it feels really just moving at my pace.

  19. Excellent post, Steph! I agree – one of my favorite things to do, too, is take my camera and just wander around by myself. It’s a great way to escape and also explore new areas.

  20. Thanks for the post. Found myself nodding along to stuff I’ve also figured out through the years. Your point about introverts being better suited to solo travel was interesting. Guess I need to give it a try!

  21. Great post! Some people just don’t get how I can enjoy solo travel and it’s because of exactly what you said. I can do whatever I want and what interests me without worrying about anyone else.

  22. Wonderful post!!! I feel like you just described me as well! I definitely enjoy traveling by myself, because I run on my own schedule, I can go to bed early, and recharge with a good book or a long dinner and walk by myself. I thought I was the only one, and that I was a total weirdo for not caring if I missed out on a wild party or all night dancing at a club!!! Traveling with an extroverted companion has helped me come out of my shell a lot, and it’s nice when he takes over asking the directions or introducing us to new people. It sounds like you and Mike balance each other in that regard–and yes, sometimes us introverts need to “calm down” the wild side of our extroverted travel companions πŸ™‚ I’m glad you wrote this Steph!

  23. I’m also an introvert – though quite ballsy, like you – and enjoy being alone. My two favorite travelling partners are my mom and my husband, though not together. Mom and I are so much alike that we can go hours without speaking but still be having the time of our lives. My husband is even more introverted than me so I’m usually the one pushing him to do things. I take one trip per year with Mom and several with my husband. Both experiences are so different but amazing in their own way.

  24. I tend to think I’m more introverted than extroverted and fully agree with your point on being a good solo traveler. I (usually) feel completely comfortable wandering around on my own and don’t feel the need to always be meeting people or in the ‘center of the action’. I think that if you were more extroverted you could easily become frustrated traveling on your own.

  25. I could really relate to this. While I don’t consider myself shy, really as I have no problem getting up on stage and making a total spectacle of myself in front of a huge room of strangers, I am quite introverted and regularly need time alone so I don’t go crazy. I have no problem justifying huge chunks of alone time in my regular life, but I feel guilty about while I’m traveling. I’ve even found myself lying to people and telling them that I’m feeling sick, just so I can hang out alone in my room and people won’t think I’m a weirdo (okay, so they probably still think I’m a weirdo… but a sick weirdo… so that’s better right?).

  26. I can totally relate too! As an introvert I have done quite a bit of solo travel, all in the US. I’ve had a great time exploring on my own. I can make friends if I feel like being social but I can also sit back and be anonymous and enjoy people being social around me without me having to interact necessarily. I can let my mind wonder. If I get lonely I will post pictures on facebook to include people in my experience. I’m usually so stimulated by my surroundings that I am having a good time. I did a solo trip to San Francisco and stayed a night in the traditionally built Japanese style house. It was the ultimate in an introvert vacation. I loved it. I met lovely people and hung out on my own a lot. You can walk through the fields of veggies and flowers to the beach. So lovely. I look a tea ceremony lesson and where I was part of a group in a wonderfully peaceful tea house. And then I stayed a few nights in San Francisco and did all kinds of things during the day and didn’t go out much in the evening. Solo travel is awesome.

  27. Great post, Steph. I had no idea you are introverted so you must have the fake it part down. I’m an introvert as well and was nodding along in agreement with most of the post, thus I am so comfortable as a solo traveller. I just did an unofficial Myers-Briggs test online (don’t tell your dad!) and I’m a INFJ (strong on the I.)

    It makes sense that Mike is an E. It’s good for balance, in a yin-yang way. My best friends are E’s and our E and I’ness tend to meet somewhere in the middle.

  28. I am an utter introvert in some respects. Hopefully a short roadtrip around Europe will help me out in the next two weeks, to come out of my shell with strangers!

  29. Well, to buck the trend, I’m an ESFJ! Although apparently I’m pretty much in the middle between extrovert and introvert, so I do relate with a lot of what you’re saying here, Steph. I do need my alone time as well, but after a while then I need to get back out there and socialise.

    I like your description of you and your friend being good and being alone together, haha! Also, I had no idea that Mike was so outgoing – sounds like he needs you to keep him in check sometimes!

  30. I’m the complete opposite! I’m a total extrovert (ENFJ) but can come off quite shy in certain situations. I definitely gain my energy from being around other people and am usually pretty outgoing, in fact I get really antsy and almost depressed if I don’t socialize for a couple days. But there are still times when I’ll be in a large group of people and while I’m happy to be there, I have a hard time striking up a conversation and am happy to be a wallflower and just drink my beer for a while.

  31. Wow, I love your post ! I can totally relate too ! The book ”The introvert advantage” really helped me understand myself and I can now readjust. I don’t feel weird anymore that I rather stay home and watch a movie instead of going to a party. I really think too that solo travel is awesome for introverts. I think we also tend to be more of the ”slow travellers” type. Great post Stephanie !

  32. I was described as an extoverted introvert once. Basically meaning I’m an introvert at heart but I’m very good at pretending I’m not πŸ˜‰

    Introverts unite!

  33. I’m definitely an introvert as well. Luckily, I find travel to actually be quite conducive to introversion. There’s a lot of quiet time on long plane, train and bus rides, and walking through museums and temples provides opportunities to just enjoy without talking to other people πŸ™‚

  34. Fun post! My sister forwarded it to me and I like your blog, too. I just popped in to say that I am an INFP as well so this was very insightful. However, I don’t seem to suffer from the social anxiety of approaching people. We move a lot, though, and travel all the time, so perhaps I’ve just gotten used to talking to people I don’t know. I think I used to feel hesitant to approach people when I was a kid.

  35. I’m an introvert! It never stopped me from travelling, I just don’t go to the woods by my self. I’ve learned to eat alone and to take pictures to my self, but I’ve also learned to tolerate better others people companion and sometimes it’s also good. I’m still working on approach new people and making friends.

  36. I love your article, & it’s so good to know there are others out there like me. I’m am INFP as well & like you, I’m not shy, far from it, I’m quite confident in a lot of scenarios. I just need a lot of alone time & although I am perfectly capable of making small talk, I prefer not to.

    I enjoyed where you shared about us getting energy from being alone (especially in nature for me), whereas extroverts get their energy from people – that was very insightful.

    It also got me thinking about my next trip.

    Thanks πŸ™‚

    Sharon

  37. I’m definitely an introverted traveler, which is one of the big reasons why I like traveling alone. I can meet people if I want, but I can also relax on a park bench with a good book if I need a break from people.

  38. I do like to be around people, but I also definitely like my down/solo time, so I always try to work that into a trip. If I end up somewhere by myself, I’m fine.

  39. Nice post! I’m an extravert who has learned to really LOVE introverted ways. Interesting, eh? I truly love day trips by myself, adventure alone, time to just sit and listen to music, write in my journal and do my thing. I have come to realize how important this is for me. I recognize that I’m an extravert and can feel when I’m getting lonely and need a people charge up, but there is a real beauty in introvercy and spending time in your head that you don’t realize until you’ve tried it. πŸ™‚

  40. Thanks for the post Steph.
    I can relate too. The definition of introvert as someone who recharge the energy from being alone..sounds like me. Glad to know that I am not the only one who experience that kind of feeling πŸ™‚

  41. This was such a wonderful read. Both Steve and I are introverts but we do try and challenge ourselves. For example, nearly every time we couchsurf, on the way there we both have a moment of thinking we don’t want to go – then nine times out of ten, we end up having a great time. I did a psychotherapy course last year and in one of the group sessions, we had to stand somewhere in the room where we felt comfortable. Loads of people gathered in the middle – I sat by the window. Apparently I like to know there’s a way out!
    I also have the added problem of blushing easily. I may not feel embarrassed, but I’ll often go red in group situations and therefore draw unwanted attention to myself – it was a nightmare in important meetings at work.
    Thanks again for the post Steph. It’s great to know others feel the same.

  42. I’m extremely extroverted. It’s good to know this because often when I meet an introvert there isn’t a spark of convo until you get to know them so I always took it like they weren’t interested or they didn’t care for me.

    Now I know!

    If I’m alone for too long, I feel disconnected from the world and get bored.

  43. I’m an introvert too, and even though I really enjoy being social and hanging out with other people, I do need my own space. It’s definitely good to be aware of what you need to recharge.

  44. Thanks for this great article, I travel a lot with a friend who is an introvert while I’m an extrovert. We get on just fine but sometimes I wonder what’s in her head…now I know and understand!

  45. Steph, this is the perfect article for me to read! I have been struggling on my first solo trip because there is some voice in my head telling me that staying in to watch a movie, write, read a book or go to bed early somehow makes me a bad traveler. I keep reminding myself that it is more about being happy than seeing every attraction and tourist spot but it is really nice to know that I am not the only one! Looking forward to seeing you this weekend!

  46. Thx for the article!! I’ve ALWAYS known I am an introvert, but it is great to read form another introvert who enjoys doing what I love: travel!
    I am a flight attendant and my job requires me to be open to passengers, friendly. And I love that! I am not shy at all, but as you say in your article it is good to be on our own. I live with my cat and we are happy just being the two of us πŸ™‚
    I envy extrovert sometimes, but I realize how great it is to rely on myself.
    I have been abroad many times, and solo travels are my passion!

    I love your website, I mean your blog! Am going to China next year so am reading your article about the country and find them very helpful.

    Keep doing what you do best!!

  47. I’m so glad I read this! I never thought of myself as an introvert but reading this now made me identify with a lot of what you described (especially, the part about avoiding confrontations – I wonder why’s that?).
    I’ve traveled abroad quite a few times this last decade and I noticed I always wanted to travel alone but “chickened out” (mostly because my mom is worried about me traveling alone and she always convinced me to add someone to the trip). And it always felt like a miss for me – looking back I know I would have enjoyed those trips much more if I were alone.

    I found your blog because I’m now planning my first trip to the US and I’m planning to do it alone! I’m very excited knowing I can finally do it “my way”, although some worries about being mugged and such rise up from time to time.
    I’ve managed to figure out that joining short organized tours can help getting over possible loneliness so I’m planning to take part in some. I also know I have no problem chatting people up and finding friends so I’m really not worried πŸ™‚

    Anyway, thanks for this posts and the tips.
    Sarit (from Israel)

  48. I’m an introvert too and I also think it’s great when traveling but it sucks when you’re at home or at parties. I can feel envious sometimes when I see people walking in somewhere and meeting people within minutes or even seconds. With me it depends a lot on if i’m in the party mood or not.

    Great Post!

  49. Haha. I’m introvert and this is the first time that I’ve seen a travel tip specially written for introverts. I agree that it’s really important to choose you’re travel companion. For me, I prefer to travel with my fellow introverts. This way I won’t be forced and stressed to go to parties with them and they won’t be bored with my company.

    I salute you for being an introvert who is very good at disguising as an extrovert! I hope I’ll be like you someday. πŸ˜‰

  50. As an INFP, I found this was so fun to read simply because it was so relatable! Outside of that, you gave some good tips! I find it pretty difficult travelling with extroverted friends or family but it helps when they understand and respect your need to have time alone, your need to skip a few parties and that it’s not a bad thing for us to choose to stay in and read or go for an adventure by ourselves! Thanks for sharing!

  51. I don’t really like the “faking” it part about getting out there and doing what are considered “extroverted things.” Are you really “faking: it? For myself, I’m also true to who I am where ever I go. Most likely, you are a curious person who enjoys adventures and meeting/overcoming new challenges in life. What you have done is just moved outside of your comfort zone and encouraged happiness in your life by overcoming fears/challenges as well as satisfy your insane curiosity and wanderlust (I know it is like this for me at least)

    1. Indeed, but sometimes to “jump start” that passion and get outside of your comfort zone you have to fake your enthusiasm until you get into the groove. It’s a mind trick, but it sure does work.

  52. I tested as an ISFJ. And I can relate to this too. Especially getting nervous/scared over the silly things like asking for directions. Nearly all of my “traveler” friends are extraverts. It is helpful when I can go and do things together with them that I wouldn’t have the initiative to do on my own. But at the same time, I have experienced that many extroverts don’t understand us introverts. For example, I too am nearly always the first one to leave a party (if I even go!), and many extroverts will feel that you aren’t having fun or that something must be wrong, rather than appreciating that this is just how we are!

  53. Another INTJ female who enjoys travel. Though for me it’s more enjoyable to travel with one other fellow introvert. “Alone together” time with a friend or family member is something only introverts seem to understand and appreciate; it’s a distinct type of intimacy! A pity extroverts don’t allow themselves to experience it.

  54. I am definitely an introvert. I do love speaking to people and all, but I find solo-time very energising and I need to ensure that I’ve time to do this, otherwise it affects my energy during the work week. I used to think something was wrong with me, when I didn’t mix much with people, till I learnt of course the traits of being an introvert. I rather spend time painting and writing than at a club, for example. Having said that, there are times when I have been very bold and have struck up conversations with people. This I have been able to do, with an open mind, a curious mind – a mind curious about their culture, about where they come from. Talking about culture, and people’s background is a great ice-breaker, especially as a third culture kid.

  55. I loved this! The hostel world is so full of extroverts and I stand out sometimes. Nice to know there are others like me πŸ™‚

  56. I really thought I commented on this when I came across it the last time but I guess not. I could not agree more with the things you pointed out. Just a few weeks ago I was trying to explain to my mom how I’m an introvert, “no you’re not, you’re not shy” so many people don’t understand that it’s more than or not just being ‘shy’. For me the biggest thing is that I need some ALONE time, especially after days filled with group outings and meeting new people. Lucky for you that you’ve found a great travel partner, I’m still on that search – although I’m in no hurry because I’m quite enjoying doing my own thing.

  57. Hi, I am an introvert who is in the planning stages of a 3 month trip to Europe. It seems a bit scary to go off on my own, but seeing your pictures and understanding the bond between camera and human, I don’t feel as scared. Are there any tips you could share? Is a Eurail pass worth it? Should I book hostels months in advance? Are there any places that I shouldn’t miss?

    1. Hi Kasee,
      Glad to hear it! I think solo travel can be really rewarding. If you search this site you can find a lot of information on traveling in Europe including must sees, Eurail pass and hostel info.

      Thanks!

  58. Big thank you to Toni who linked to this post… finally, something I can totally and completely relate to!!! Yay!! I’m another introvert who can put on a good mask for a while in front of other people, who are always surprised to learn that I am a classic introvert. And I love to travel! I love reading your perspective on it all and how much I can relate to it…. I wish there was more out there like this for us introverts so we know that we’re not weird little anomalies, and we’re actually totally normal, just different! I hope your adventures are still going strong πŸ™‚

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